Comments on: Awkward Questions http://emphaticasterisk.com/2008/08/09/awkward-questions/ I am a gay-affirming pro-choice left-wing loony pacifist environmental nutjob Christian! Fri, 16 Jul 2010 01:31:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: goldnsilver http://emphaticasterisk.com/2008/08/09/awkward-questions/#comment-2487 goldnsilver Tue, 19 Aug 2008 01:27:12 +0000 http://shushnow.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-2487 Very good post. I certaintly wouldn't want to feel that i have to answer all these questions But I would make one point. Sometimes people ask questions, not to make you justify your actions, but in fact to learn more about you. My sister is always happy to answer questions about being gay to other people, because she believes that it helps disprove some myths and make her culture seem less threatening/alien to straight people. Having said that, if people are being intrusive and trying to get you to <i>justify</i> yourself, than don't bother humoring them. Very good post. I certaintly wouldn’t want to feel that i have to answer all these questions

But I would make one point. Sometimes people ask questions, not to make you justify your actions, but in fact to learn more about you. My sister is always happy to answer questions about being gay to other people, because she believes that it helps disprove some myths and make her culture seem less threatening/alien to straight people.

Having said that, if people are being intrusive and trying to get you to justify yourself, than don’t bother humoring them.

]]> By: Lindsey http://emphaticasterisk.com/2008/08/09/awkward-questions/#comment-2419 Lindsey Wed, 13 Aug 2008 23:25:35 +0000 http://shushnow.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-2419 <b>sensualist</b>: welcome to my blog! It's a sometimes nonsensical hodgepodge of religion, tolerance, family, and other random stuff. sensualist: welcome to my blog! It’s a sometimes nonsensical hodgepodge of religion, tolerance, family, and other random stuff.

]]> By: Lindsey http://emphaticasterisk.com/2008/08/09/awkward-questions/#comment-2418 Lindsey Wed, 13 Aug 2008 23:23:14 +0000 http://shushnow.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-2418 <b>Everyone</b>: Thanks! <b>e2c, bridgeout</b>: Ah... good points. And I agree: heterosexuals can get marginalized by choosing the wrong partner. It is just doubly bad for homosexuals, who start out wrong even if they find the perfect Jewish doctor who is just the wrong gender. Everyone: Thanks!

e2c, bridgeout: Ah… good points. And I agree: heterosexuals can get marginalized by choosing the wrong partner. It is just doubly bad for homosexuals, who start out wrong even if they find the perfect Jewish doctor who is just the wrong gender.

]]> By: sensualist http://emphaticasterisk.com/2008/08/09/awkward-questions/#comment-2410 sensualist Wed, 13 Aug 2008 01:25:52 +0000 http://shushnow.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-2410 Excellent post. I have no idea what the rest of your site is about as I have not had time to look. However, terrific of you for putting the shoe on the other foot. Excellent post. I have no idea what the rest of your site is about as I have not had time to look. However, terrific of you for putting the shoe on the other foot.

]]> By: e2tc http://emphaticasterisk.com/2008/08/09/awkward-questions/#comment-2408 e2tc Wed, 13 Aug 2008 01:03:47 +0000 http://shushnow.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-2408 <b>bridgeout</b> re. a straight family member and this question ("“How can you expect us to come visit you when we are uncomfortable with who you live with?”), I think the answer's "Yes." (Could be that they aren't married, partner/gf/bf is "wrong" religion, skin color, nationality, too old/young, too whatever...) bridgeout re. a straight family member and this question (““How can you expect us to come visit you when we are uncomfortable with who you live with?”), I think the answer’s “Yes.” (Could be that they aren’t married, partner/gf/bf is “wrong” religion, skin color, nationality, too old/young, too whatever…)

]]> By: queerunity http://emphaticasterisk.com/2008/08/09/awkward-questions/#comment-2406 queerunity Tue, 12 Aug 2008 23:04:39 +0000 http://shushnow.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-2406 thanks for posting this and being an ally to the LGBT community thanks for posting this and being an ally to the LGBT community

]]> By: bridgeout http://emphaticasterisk.com/2008/08/09/awkward-questions/#comment-2405 bridgeout Tue, 12 Aug 2008 15:04:32 +0000 http://shushnow.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-2405 Thank you Lindsey! I wish I had those questions to email to my brother who was asking me such things last month! I found myself "explaining" myself and then resenting that he asked me afterward! You have the knack for putting these matters into perspective. Knowing there is someone like you out there gives me hope that other "straight Christians" are capable of reason and compassion. PS-How about these questions: "When you came to visit with your partner were you trying to clue us all in to your lifestyle?" "How can you expect us to come visit you when we are uncomfortable with who you live with?" Would those ever be asked of a straight family member? Thank you Lindsey! I wish I had those questions to email to my brother who was asking me such things last month! I found myself “explaining” myself and then resenting that he asked me afterward! You have the knack for putting these matters into perspective. Knowing there is someone like you out there gives me hope that other “straight Christians” are capable of reason and compassion.
PS-How about these questions:
“When you came to visit with your partner were you trying to clue us all in to your lifestyle?”
“How can you expect us to come visit you when we are uncomfortable with who you live with?”
Would those ever be asked of a straight family member?

]]> By: Weekly Fruit Salad - Número Dez « SanityFound’s Rambling’s http://emphaticasterisk.com/2008/08/09/awkward-questions/#comment-2403 Weekly Fruit Salad - Número Dez « SanityFound’s Rambling’s Mon, 11 Aug 2008 21:40:24 +0000 http://shushnow.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-2403 [...] we should all rather just start asking those Awkward Questions, start coming up with ways to solve the world’s starvation problems and how to get simple things [...] [...] we should all rather just start asking those Awkward Questions, start coming up with ways to solve the world’s starvation problems and how to get simple things [...]

]]> By: SanityFound http://emphaticasterisk.com/2008/08/09/awkward-questions/#comment-2388 SanityFound Sun, 10 Aug 2008 12:58:16 +0000 http://shushnow.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-2388 I second everyone above, showing the other side of the spectrum, one that not many take the time to do - Flip society on its head and its a totally different story. Incredible, seriously, incredible! Wow! I second everyone above, showing the other side of the spectrum, one that not many take the time to do – Flip society on its head and its a totally different story. Incredible, seriously, incredible! Wow!

]]> By: Amber http://emphaticasterisk.com/2008/08/09/awkward-questions/#comment-2383 Amber Sun, 10 Aug 2008 07:23:04 +0000 http://shushnow.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-2383 Amazing thinking Lindsey... really gf. This was outstanding! Amazing thinking Lindsey… really gf. This was outstanding!

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