This is a postscript to my previous post, because I feel I’ve unintentionally caused good people pain by using language that portrays gay people as being broken, or to put it in other words, in need of fixing. So I’d like to clarify.
Gay people aren’t any more broken than anyone else. Yes, God calls us to the broken. But by saying that, all I mean is that he calls us to each other. We are all broken. And whether or not one person is in need of more fixing than another is ultimately between that one person and their Creator, as it’s the Creator that will be the one doing the repairs.
We take each other’s sins too personally. We get too involved in picking at each other’s specks and faults and get so wrapped up in appearances and desires that we totally miss the bigger picture. That picture being that if God only used the perfect, we’d have no Bible, because God would have never moved. There would have been no one to write about. Everyone is broken.
So maybe the vast majority of Christians look at gay people and see someone who is “publicly sinning”, “unapologetic”, “hedonistic”, and the list goes on and on. I look at them and see someone who was created differently, has different needs and desires and ideals, and is passionately loved by God. I look at them and I want to talk to them about what their life has been like by being forced out of adhering to stereotypes. Because I’ve always been able to choose the life I wanted, because my biological makeup and my desires and other people’s expectations seemed to mesh. I want a family, I’m heterosexual, people expect me to procreate in the normal manner- so I do! Christ that’s easy!
But I’ve known people for whom it wasn’t easy. People who wanted babies and to give their parents grandbabies and they were gay, so it’s not easy. Their sexual orientation broke their hearts. And that is why I call them broken- not because I think they need “fixed” but because I feel the pain of someone who is forced outside the norm, forced to feel different, to be neglected, to be rejected by their faith. We don’t need to fix them- just to embrace them. To say that we won’t judge them. To try to have a conversation. To try to understand.
So, gay people reading this post: know I would never mean to marginalize you or to treat your sexuality like something petty. It’s not.
And Christians reading this post: For the love of God try to look past the sin issues and your own personal stereotypes. It’s not a sexual orientation that you’re talking about, it’s also a person. A person God loves.