- How long have you known you’re heterosexual?
- Why do you feel the need to behave in ways that reinforce negative heterosexual stereotypes?
- Why do you allow your heterosexuality to affect so much of your life?
- Did you choose _this hobby_ or _that kind of music_ because of your sexuality?
- Must you really behave(or dress) in a way that flaunts your heterosexuality(or makes it so hard to ignore)?
- How did the people in your life react when they realized you are attracted to the opposite sex?
- Does the fact you’re a heterosexual make family events awkward?
- Does your church know that you’re heterosexual?
- Have you ever been in a socially awkward situation because of your heterosexuality?
- Are you ever attracted to the same sex, maybe just a little?
- Don’t you ever wonder if you might be mistaken about your sexuality?
Of course most of these questions seem a little awkward when they are phrased around “heterosexuality”. Change them to suit the word homosexuality, and you find a lot of questions that a gay person is expected to answer when they tell someone unacquainted with homosexuality that they are, in fact, attracted to people of the same sex. It’s the awkward truth that all that is taken for granted about someone who is heterosexual is questioned in someone who is homosexual. For me, life comes easily. The fact that I am a wife, a stay at home mother, an active member of my church is not solely about my sexual orientation and goes unquestioned. Change my orientation and my choice of life partner, and suddenly everything may be questioned.
Sometimes I just imagine the shoe being on the other foot. It seems like it might be a tad uncomfortable.