Like/Don’t like: Church Edition

I used to do the “Like/Don’t like” lists as a kid.  It’s an interesting exercise, to try to change everything you do like into something you don’t, or something you don’t like into something you do.  So:  what I like/don’t like about church:

  • I Like the feeling of corporate agreement and the close bond from knowing that we are “in this together”
  • I don’t like how readily that lends itself to the mob mentality
  • I like knowing that there are all those other people there, interested in my well being
  • I don’t like when they involve themselves in areas of my life I don’t invite them into- especially when we aren’t in agreement.
  • I like the spontaneous honesty, and knowing people as whole people far more deeply than one would in another context
  • I don’t like knowing the deepest secrets of someone who may have stayed a relative stranger if we hadn’t gone on a retreat together.
  • I like the “church food” served at luncheons- no one knows a casserole like a church lady, am I right?
  • I don’t like that church luncheons always seem to be a table of casseroles and a table of deserts and one lonely salad with fatty dressing
  • I like hearing sermons I didn’t expect to hear, and agreeing where I didn’t expect to agree
  • I don’t like the other eighty percent of the time when all I can think is “been there, read that, heard this.”
  • I like the fact that I seem naturally propelled into positions of responsibility.  It feels good to take care of people.
  • I don’t like the fact that I don’t always feel like I get to choose my own calling.
  • I like being in a community.
  • I don’t like the fact that the church community seems to be a gated one.
  • I like having hope for the future
  • I don’t like knowing that we’ve got such a long way to go.

That’s enough for today.  I’m feeling very sleepy.

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6 thoughts on “Like/Don’t like: Church Edition

  1. Just when I think maybe I should comment more and this post comes up. In a nutshell, this is why I don’t go to my old church anymore. Especially your second “don’t like.”

    One of these days I’ll find a church for me where the likes can outweight the dislikes.

    Another interesting one, you said: “I don’t like the fact that I don’t always feel like I get to choose my own calling.”

    I’ve never heard anyone say that outright, but I was propelled into children’s ministry a while back and was unable to convince anyone that that certainly wasn’t my calling, just something I was doing because the teacher needed help. I’m glad to know that there are other people who can feel that way sometimes.

  2. I don’t like how readily that lends itself to the mob mentality

    Maybe when you disagree with something, make sure you speak up. I’m sure there are others who feel the same and need to hear a voice. Also, disagreement within a group is a good thing. It keeps people on their toes and maybe it will broaden their views.

    (Or they’ll secretly despise you. But its fun to push their buttons then)

  3. Tony: You just like flipping things on their heads! 😉

    needle: Nice to see your face! (Or typeface, lol) I wish I could say that you’ll find the right place, but who knows. I was fortunate to find the church I attend now- and a few friends and I have started our own “offshoot” because even the great church that I love still doesn’t always feel like a good fit. And as for the finding one’s own calling thing- I find myself in an identical position. I was thrust into leading the toddler room mostly because I was willing, not because I was called. It is indeed frustrating.

    bridgeout: Ever different, ever the same! Fortunately as long as there are warm bodies willing to be different, things can change.

    goldnsilver: Great advice! At my last church I was incredibly vocal and things ended bad, so I’ve been biding my time and winning friends and influencing people at this one before really sounding off… but those days are fast coming to an end. It’ll be interesting to see how things play out now.

    faemom: That is a REALLY frustrating feeling- but at least you aren’t alone in thought even if you are in reality. There are a LOT of people in the world who wrestle with their faith- especially here on this little blog. 😀

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